Learning to Dance

Wedding Dance

After a glorious wedding ceremony, my new bride and I had our picture perfect moment as they began to play our song during the reception. With a knowing smile, we took each other’s hand and swept across the dance floor in harmony, moving smoothly through the dance steps we had practiced for so long. It was a breathtaking moment, and in our minds it was absolutely perfect. (Of course, later on we watched a video of the dance and laughed our heads off… let’s just say we won’t be starring on Dancing With the Stars anytime soon!)

But I’ll never forget how many friends and family members wiped away tears of happiness as they watched us dance that day. There’s just something about dancing that is such a perfect reflection of what a biblical marriage should be. The woman, of course, steals the show with her beauty and grace… and it is the man’s gentle guidance and ability to lovingly lead the dance that helps her to shine so radiantly. But the man isn’t making it all up… there are usually a specific set of steps that he must know how to follow, which he had to learn from somewhere (a dance coach of some kind).

Doesn’t this reflect a Christian marriage wonderfully? A wife shining as brilliantly as a star as she blesses the world with her grace and talents, moving in perfect rhythm with a husband who has learned the steps to follow and leads in a tender and loving way. And the glory for this life well lived, of course, goes to God – the Dance Coach who choreographs the steps of their life and provides clear direction and encouragement.


Dancing – Harder Than It Looks

But don’t get me wrong – like most things in life, dancing isn’t as easy as the professionals make it look! During our early dance lessons, I often felt so foolish and clumsy as I tried to lead, but was struggling to learn the steps myself. More than anything, I hated the feeling that I was letting Janelle down, since she was counting on me to lead the way. Only after countless hours of hard work and practice were we able to pull off our memorable moment.

The same thing happens in marriage. The wife longs for her husband to listen for Christ’s voice and step up as the spiritual leader of their home, but in order for him to do this, he has to learn the steps. Otherwise, he’ll end up stumbling through life and feeling as if he has let everybody down.


Learning the Steps

How exactly does one learn the dance steps of life? We have to daily walk with the LORD, listening for His voice and letting Him take the lead. He promises to lead us into the best possible pathway, if we’ll simply follow Him:


“Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.”

Psalm 25:5 (NIV)


“The LORD says, “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you.”

Psalm 32:8 (NLT)


Called to Dance

Men, learning to shepherd our families in the same way Christ shepherds us is one of our greatest callings, and one of our heaviest responsibilities.

Are you willing to put in the daily time and effort required to truly learn to dance?


Lead Me, by Sanctus Real:

10 thoughts on “Learning to Dance

  1. I love this one!! Its a beautiful picture of our walk with God! thanks for describing it so beautifully- and bless your marriage.


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