Our spiritual well-being and our romantic relationships are hopelessly intertwined – mess up in one of these areas, and you mess up in both.
I Peter 3:7 supports this when it commands husbands to love their wives and live with them in an understanding way so that their prayers would not be hindered. The message is plain: when two people are united in marriage they enter a threefold relationship, which includes both marriage partners and God.
With this in mind, what better way to spend Valentines Day then nourishing your relationship in its entirety? Here are three fun ways that you and your spouse can go on a “Double Date with God” this year:
Take your loved one back to the spot where you first met, or where you went on your first date. Spend some time reminiscing about the “good old days” and how far you’ve come.
Then, over dinner, take turns reflecting on where you were when you first asked Christ into your heart. How has your life changed since that moment?
One of the wonderful things about art is that it acts as a mirror, reflecting our own values back to us. Two people can gaze at the same painting and see totally different things, because their own emotional state, past experiences, and beliefs about what is most valuable in the human experience will tint their vision.
Try going to an art exhibit or museum with your loved one. Take turns explaining what each piece means to you and why, and have fun learning about them (and about yourself!). Put your heads together and see if you the painting gives you any clues to the artist’s relationship with God…you’re your perspective, what seems to be the “spiritual message” behind each piece?
You could spend a good deal of money on a marriage conference, where you’d hear lectures on how to improve your marital relationship and your walk with God, and then spend time one-on-one to talk about these matters with one another. Another more affordable option would be to put together your own spiritual retreat.
Spend the weekend at a nice hotel or bed and breakfast, and take a Bible Study with you that you have both been wanting to read. Take time to relax, rejuvenate, go sightseeing, and enjoy each other’s company, but also take a little time each day to read through the Bible Study together, talk about what you’ve read, and pray as a couple.
“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” – Matthew 22:37-39